There exists between readers and a writer, a sortof “invisible” wall. After all, I don’t exactly know everyone who is reading this, or who might read it later. Certainly, writing a book is the best example of a really long monologue- a lone voice in the wilderness of Amazon, Barnes and Noble- shouting in a cacophony to get your attention, but once your attention has been captured, it’s an entirely one-sided lecture. I tried to make my book amusing and informative, and helpful and supportive, but in the end, it’s you reading my thoughts with no real chance to respond.
A book is in stark contrast to talking to friends and exchanging ideas… a true conversation with give and take and a flow and an ebb of topics. Then there is private writing. The diary, the journal, in which you are the only reader. It’s an advanced version of talking to yourself. And then, there’s the wonderful blurring of all of these lines with social media. Even with Facebook, there is some measure of control over who reads your innermost thoughts- and just fyi, some of those thoughts probably should have stayed private.
Blogging is a wonderful place between… This is public- which means that anyone, everyone- has access to it. The glories of a blog is that some of those “invisible” readers might actually write back- it comes close to a conversation! But I get to expound on what I want to think about! I get to reflect and ponder and share! I don’t have to follow perfect grammar and punctuation rules! And sometimes, I get to respond to other people’s thoughts! Blogging, for me, is a wonderful “at this moment” diary as I process through things, a conversation with folks, a chance to share in the larger discussions within the fields of autism/giftedness/education, etc, a chance to try out ideas, and honestly, a way to share my kids’ lives with my mother and my friends.
Over the last week, my readership has jumped. I knew there was a reason- I knew that Google hadn’t placed me at the top of every search. Normally, I don’t have personal conversations with one set of readers or one person (Hi, Mother!), since that would be excluding all of those other readers or people I don’t know. But my fabulous friend, Wendy, a prolific writer, speaker professor, former beauty queen- and amazing mommy and friend (really, if I didn’t love her so much, I’d hate her!) apparently made reading this blog a class requirement for her students.
She has learned, as I have, the power of the blog for exploring different points of view, for learning the struggles and the joys, for getting to feel like you know someone by their words. I have leaned on several blogs over the years- I didn’t always comment, but I read, and I checked in almost every day. See my BlogRoll? I check in with them often. I haven’t met them in person- all right, I’ve met one- but I feel I know them. I know their humor, I know their eloquence, I know their turn of phrase, and I learn from them. I learn grace under pressure, I learn things to say in difficult situations, I learn of what’s possible, I learn what to do, and I learn that I am not alone.
So, if you’re in Wendy’s class, or you found this site from a Google search, or you’ve been to one of my presentations and you’re tuning in for the first time, or if you’ve been reading since the beginning (Hi, Mother!),
Grab a cup of coffee, pull up a chair, sit down, lean forward over that computer monitor or cell phone, and enjoy! And if you have a thought or a reaction, or you find yourself talking to the screen, the Comments section is down at the bottom of the blog. My Comments policy is posted to the right. You’ll have to put in your email address- but only I see it. You may find yourself disagreeing. You might find yourself cheering. You might find yourself bored. Come join the conversation! Read some of the other blogs I follow. Read some of the blog posts that I refer to and share with others all the time. And I hope that as you move on with your very busy life, you find a little bit of humor, a little bit of a tear, a little bit to think about…
And remember… you’re welcome at my blog anytime!